“How can we practice not yelling when we’re angry if there’s no one around to push our buttons?”
~~from Ruling Your World by Sakyong Mipham
I remember listening to an Abraham Hicks clip on YouTube a few years ago where they said that your Inner Being might sometimes steer you towards unwanted. This really bothered me and made me a bit angry, actually. I remember thinking, “What’s the point of doing all of this inner work and raising my vibration if I’m still going to have to deal with unwanted? I thought I was working towards creating my own reality!”
But I’ve come to see this from a different perspective. Your Inner Being and the Universe won’t randomly throw completely pointless negative events in your path just for giggles. Everything in our experience is there to help us learn and expand. Everything is here to help us reach new heights.
Continue reading “For the Love of Spiders”
Here is a passage about selflessness from the book Ruling Your World by Sakyong Mipham.
Even when we speak of selflessness, the mind goes to “me.” We think, “I’m selfless,” but everything is selfless. Saying “everything is selfless” is like calling that stone “dogless.” It might give the impression that a dog was there at some point, but it never was. It was our idea of a dog that was there. Similarly, we say everything is selfless, but the Self was never there. There was only our idea of a self.
I’ve had trouble wrapping my mind around the concept of selflessness, but the analogy of saying a stone is “dogless” got me to look at it from a different angle. He is trying to get us to see that the word “selfless” itself is revealing our bias or assumption. He is saying we are starting from a manufactured place of “self” and then creating the term “selfless” to point back to the state of being without self, but that “self” was something we made up to begin with and “selflessness” is what truly is.
Continue reading “Selflessness and Doglessness”
I had a lot of doubts along the way to my new belief system. I still have some, of course, but the interesting and incredibly frustrating thing I noticed was that some of my lingering doubts have to do with things that I am actively experience on a regular basis. Some of my old beliefs were tenaciously standing their ground even as I had experiences over and over again that showed them to be false.
Continue reading “Believing Your Beliefs Aren’t Beliefs”
“When you know what you don’t want, you know what you do want.”
I realized yesterday that most of my life has been spent with one eye constantly fixed on the thing I didn’t want the most. I would identify unwanted and then focus on it. I told myself that this was helpful and practical, and I suppose that in some ways it can be. Identifying what you don’t want can help you clarify what you do want. But I never moved on to focusing on what I did want. What I was doing was spending the vast majority of my time focusingon what I didn’t want, feeling horrible about it, and then trying to avoid it.
Continue reading “Happiness Seeking or Fear Avoiding?”
I just wanted to share a small excerpt from The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran. A wonderful little book, if you haven’t read it.
The books is set up as a series of questions and answers from the towns people to the prophet before he leaves their city. This excerpt is from page 24 of the book.
I’ve come to realize that fear of need or lack is one of my biggest areas of resistance — like a lot of people, I’m sure. This passage really resonated with me.
Then said a rich man, Speak to us of Giving.
And he answered:
You give but little when you give of your possessions.
It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.
For what are your possessions but things you keep and guard for fear you may need them to-morrow?
And to-morrow, what shall to-morrow bring to the over-prudent dog burying bones in the trackless sand as he follows the pilgrims to the holy city?
And what is fear of need but need itself?
Is not dread of thirst when your well is full, the thirst that is unquenchable?
There are those who give little of the much which they have—and they give it for recognition and their hidden desire makes their gifts unwholesome.
And there are those who have little and give it all.
These are the believers in life and the bounty of life, and their coffer is never empty.
It’s a new year. Many people see this time as a fresh beginning. A time to start putting everything in our lives right. This year we will stick to our resolutions!
I thought about resolutions today and wondered at the reason behind this tradition. How and why did it get started? If someone decides in May that they want to get out of debt or decides in October that they want to spend more time with their children, most people, I think, go ahead and start at that time. I can’t imagine that there are too many people who delay on something they truly want to do because of the calendar.
So why the New Year resolution? Is it because the new year feels like a clean slate? A chance for us to leave the mistakes of the previous year behind? Do our cultural beliefs about the new year bringing new beginnings change our state of mind and, as a result, our energy state? Does this belief allow us to temporarily let go of some of our baggage? Do we feel the surge of positivity from this new, higher vibrational energy level, which then fills us with hopefulness, self-belief, and encouragement?
Continue reading “New Year Resolutions All Year Round”
It struck me today that life is like an infinite number of TV channels and our beliefs and thoughts are the controller. These channels, instead of being something we just watch, are an immersive experience. This is TV that you live, breath, and feel.
And the wonderful thing is that just because you were born on one channel or spent all of last year on another doesn’t mean you can’t switch to a different channel right now. Nothing keeps you bound to a particular life experience anymore than you are bound to one channel on your TV.
Limiting beliefs are actually pretty interesting to me. A lot of the ones I’ve unearthed within myself have been so illogical and silly that I’m actually startled when I come across them. Bashar (check out the Resources page for links) says that limiting beliefs make so little sense that often just uncovering them and bringing them into conscious awareness is enough to release them.
I’ve found that to be true with quite a few of them, but some of them — maybe the really crafty ones — present themselves as more than beliefs. They project a solidity that makes them seem like inalterable facts of reality.
Continue reading “Believe me or else…”